What do I want from you? Well, I want you to stop and consider your life and to direct it toward your personal goals. You only have so much time on earth in that body and psyche of yours. So, why procrastinate and postpone?

Take command and move forward into the life you desire and design! After all, isn’t it your responsibility to make of your life what you will and can? Don’t we all have visions for ourselves to follow and manifest? Doesn’t every human being have a purpose to fulfill on this planet? Can’t we all put in more effort, do better and feel a sense of pride in ourselves?

I believe that we owe it to ourselves to become all that we can become. It feels good and it impacts others in positive ways.

So, be courageous, take chances and make a contribution. Don’t allow yourself to be limited by others, held down by trivial pursuits, or held back by unhealthy habits. Live a life with as few regrets as possible. Live fully!

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Why Am I Writing These Short Articles for You to Read?

My purpose is very clear and simple to me. I want to introduce you to helpful ideas that you can use in your life.

To be transparent, here’s my longer answer. My reason for writing is to: educate and inform you; stimulate and provoke you; help you to overcome challenges and struggles; provide useful tips and advice; make you laugh; help you to consider and reflect upon your life; bring new insights; stimulate you to re-evaluate your thoughts and beliefs; assist you to break old unhealthy habits; start an interactive conversation between us; and inspire you to grow and take actions so that you can become all that you can be.

As you can see, I want to impact you in a positive way. I’m ambitious to influence you. I want my musings here to make you stop, think and feel. I want you to react to things that are important to you in your day-to-day life.

My Articles Will Be Direct and Simple. 

You’ll read no fluff or superficial ideas here. You may not like or agree with some of them. You may not see the direct application in your life. But that’s okay because I will not be able to appeal to all of my readers every time.

I’m not trying to win a popularity contest. I’m purposefully trying to stir you up with new ideas so that you might take valuable actions to improve your life. For you and your loved ones, this blog will dish out relevant ideas that will help you to become more resilient and hardy.

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What Subjects Is Revel Going to Address?

Mostly, I will be posting about psychological, personal growth and self-help issues. My subjects will be various and unfold over time. I’ll write a mixture of single articles of short length on individual topics as well as a series of posts addressing one subject.

Here is a preview list of topics that I intend to address over the coming years: Relationships, marriage, marital & couple therapy, infidelity, divorce, arguing, pre-marital issues, men’s issues, psychotherapy, business performance coaching, group therapy, emotions, problem-solving, inner voice & self-talk, life balance, purpose & meaning, depression & grief,  anxiety, fear, sleep, life transitions, marketing & business development, parenting, family, psychiatric medications, love, intimacy, sexuality, dating, stress, maintaining health, chronic & terminal illness, care-giving, will-power, courage, risk-taking, aging, death and productivity. I will gradually be posting on these topics.

Does that give you a pretty good idea what lays ahead?

Life Is a Challenge for Each Human Being.

It always has been and it always will be. Nobody escapes or lives in heaven while here on earth. Life is a series of different problems and issues that keep confronting us. Big, medium, small problems. Exaggerated,  imaginary and real challenges.

Whatever form they come in, life problems are always annoying us. And, we’re always aware of them. These challenges may come to you uninvited and you may intentionally create some challenges to conquer.

In my posts here, I’ll address many of these problem areas and provide ways to overcome barriers in your path.

Why? Because we all need tools and perspective to deal with obstacles that continuously confront us and interfere in our life. You benefit from using problem-solving skills that help you to clear your path and move forward. You need to set priorities and make tough decisions. You benefit when you learn valuable ideas, identify possible options and gain new insights. You win when you develop more emotional strength and resiliency to bounce back and solve the perpetual problems that you face.

I believe that my articles will provide you with some practical tools and hopeful insights to assist you through each day.

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Life Presents Us with a Series of Endless Hurdles to Jump Over.

No matter how hard you try, you can’t escape this reality. It’s like a truth or a law of human life and this is our relentless predicament here on earth. We are constantly challenged with problems.

We struggle to feed and clothe ourselves, to protect ourselves, to belong, to find love, and to actualize our potential. Only seldom are we fully relaxed and free of difficulties and concerns that face us. We cannot sustain a blessed condition of being or a blissful meditative state of mind for very long. Problems just keep rising.

You experience this daily, don’t you? Some days are better and some are worse. At times we deal with these obstacles very well and we solve them. We clear the path for new issues to arise.

At other times, we hesitate, get overwhelmed and botch it up, thereby creating more problems. Therefore, having good problem-solving skills is very helpful as we meander and maneuver through life.

Problems Are Not All Bad or Negative.

They help us to grow and develop, to expand our horizons. Many problems and concerns are positive challenges. Sometimes they are growth experiences in disguise, opportunities to discover new things. Some demands that we face may actually be gateways to new arenas that we may never have experienced before. Challenges help us develop and mature.

So, don’t dread problems and hope for a passive and boring life because it will never happen. And if it did, then that would be like a slow death.

I want my posts to help you strive for your dreams, overcome obstacles, realize new truths, love more and accept yourself. Take your life on with a new and bold commitment!

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I Have Various Kinds of Readers.

They consist of: clients, professional colleagues and people interested in the topics that I address. They come here to read about certain issues of personal interest or they discover my blog while visiting my website.

Dr. Miller’s Background.

I’ve been a licensed clinical psychologist for over 30 years and I’ve lived in Santa Barbara for over 20 years. You can find out more about me and my practice here:.  http://www.drrevelmiller.com/dr-revel-millers-professional-background/   and     http://www.drrevelmiller.com/welcome/

I want you to know that I am not a sullen “mind-shrinker”. I refer to myself as an upbeat “mind-expander”. I help people to broaden and enlarge their perspective, actions and feelings.

My Beliefs and Experience.

I deeply believe that we all have the personal power and a duty to continually improve and transform our life, behavior, mood, beliefs, relationships, health status and self-concept. I don’t want people to fear their own emotions or their communication with others.

I want you to stand your ground and be proud of who you are and what you’ve accomplished. And because we all carry guilt and shame, I hope that you can own these negative feelings and then release them. Always strive to combat the inner guilt and shame that holds you hostage, chokes off your life and puts you into self-imposed bondage.

Every one of us has made errors and feels embarrassed about some our behaviors in the past. But don’t allow your memories and self-criticisms to control you. Gradually, one by one, shed your unnecessary guilt and shame. Boldly take control of your life and purposefully influence yourself in the direction of your choosing.

In my life, I’ve witnessed, participated in and heard about many people who have significantly changed themselves, their relationships, and their day-to-day lives for the better with pride and gratitude. Like them, you too can improve or turn around your life.

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Welcome to My First Blog Post!

I’m glad you stopped by. My name is Revel Miller. I am a psychologist and an energetic liver of life.

I’m also ambitious. In my posts or short articles here, I hope to: stimulate your thoughts, stir up your emotions, penetrate your soul, impact your relationships, ignite your hope, and improve your self-concept. I strive to influence your attitude about your current life, your future life, and life in general.

How’s that for an audacious set of goals?

In This Blog, I’ll Share…

my professional views and personal beliefs about a wide array of topics. I will also present you with helpful information.

I’ve been on earth for quite some time and I’m insatiably curious. So, I’ve learned many things and I have a lot to say. For fun and inspiration, I will also share some mind twisters and thought-provoking quotes. I’ll blend serious topics with fun ideas because after all, we all enjoy humor. Just like love, good humor, interactive play and belly laughter heal our souls. And yes, I definitely do believe that you have a soul lurking around inside of you somewhere.

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